You’ve probably heard it before: “Employees don’t quit jobs. They quit managers.” Or, in this case, they quit the way they’re treated. And honestly, they’re not wrong. Haven’t we all been there? Haven’t we had a job where we said, “I love my job except for my boss?”
Think about it, most companies proudly plaster their values on the break room wall like inspirational posters from the ‘90s. You’ve seen it: Integrity! Teamwork! Innovation! But when it comes down to it, as employees we feel more like contestants on Survivor than trusted professionals, no amount of “Teamwork Tuesday” donuts are going to keep us around.
Here’s the deal: people don’t stay because their company has a ping-pong table , a Keurig with twelve flavors, or a Slack channel full of cat memes (although, let’s be real, cat memes do help). They stay when they feel safe—psychologically safe.
“Survivor: Corporate Edition”
Psychological Safety: The Secret Sauce (Spoiler: It’s Not Ranch)
Psychological safety is the radical, almost revolutionary, idea that employees shouldn’t have to brace themselves every time they open their mouths in a meeting. Can you imagine it? Being able to ask a question, share a wild idea, or (gasp) point out a mistake without worrying about getting the corporate side-eye.
When people feel safe, they’re willing to:
• Speak up with ideas that could actually improve things.
• Admit when something’s broken instead of duct-taping it and praying.
• Take smart risks that move the company forward.
• Not spend their evenings stress-bingeing Netflix while rethinking their life choices.
What Makes People Stay (Hint: Not Pizza Parties)
I cringe every time I hear, “do well and you will earn a pizza party” . Are we not adults? Josh Rincon nailed it with his list. People want to be paid well, heard, trusted, supported, recognized, included, appreciated, empowered, and promoted. That’s not “fluff”: that’s culture! But here’s the kicker: all that rests on psychological safety. Without it, recognition feels fake, support feels conditional, and “empowerment” is just code for “do more with less.” If your team doesn’t feel safe enough to raise their hand and say, “Hey, I need help,” or “This process is a dumpster fire,” then all the HR initiatives in the world won’t keep us around. We will quietly polish up our LinkedIn profiles and bounce the second another company offers us an ounce of respect.
Retention Isn’t a Strategy—It’s a Side Effect
You don’t “strategy” your way into retention with fancy programs. Retention is what happens when people wake up in the morning and don’t dread logging into work. It’s what happens when employees feel seen, heard, and valued; not just as “resources” but as humans. So, the next time you wonder why turnover is sky-high, don’t look at your “employee engagement survey” with its suspiciously low participation rate (I personally hate it when I get one of these surveys).
Instead, look at your culture. Look at how safe people feel to be themselves, mess up, speak up, and grow. Because at the end of the day, as employees, we don’t quit jobs. We quit feeling like expendable extras in the corporate reality show. And unless you’re planning on handing out immunity idols at the next staff meeting, it’s time to build a workplace where people actually feel safe.
10/6/2025
10/13/2025
I hate performance reviews as I always feel it is a referendum on trivial successes or my ability to say “yes” verse a celebration or discussion of innovation, even if I didn’t get it exactly right. Let's get real. We live in a world obsessed with success. LinkedIn is a highlight reel of triumphs, Instagram is a carefully curated gallery of perfection, and our performance reviews often feel like a divine judgment on our eternal worth. But what about the glorious, messy, often hilarious art of failing? Yeah, I said it. Failing. The F-word we whisper in hushed tones, the thing we try to sweep under the rug faster than you can say "synergy." The topic of water cooler gossip.
But here's the uncomfortable truth: if you're not failing, you're not trying hard enough. And more importantly, you're almost certainly not working in an environment with true psychological safety.
The "Failure is Not an Option" Lie
Let's debunk a classic corporate trope. "Failure is not an option!" Oh, really [insert every boss who every said that here]? So, every project you've ever worked on has gone perfectly, hit every deadline, stayed within budget, and delivered exactly what was envisioned on day one? Riiight. And I'm pretty sure my dog just did my taxes.
The truth is, failure isn't just an option; it's practically a prerequisite for innovation, growth, and anything remotely interesting. Think about it: every wildly successful product, strategy, or idea probably has a graveyard of less-than-stellar predecessors. We even see examples of “failures” all around us: WD40, Post-it notes, slinky, and even popsicles. None of these everyday items turned out the way the innovator imagined.
But here's the catch: for failure to be a launchpad and not a landmine, you need an environment where people aren't terrified to admit they messed up. That, my friends, is where psychological safety waltzes in, cape fluttering.
When Failure Gets Its Groove Back
In a psychologically safe workplace:
1. Failure isn't a scarlet letter; it's a data point. Someone tried something, it didn't work. Okay, why? What did we learn? How can we pivot? The focus shifts from blame to learning, from shame to strategy.
2. "I messed up" becomes "Here's what I discovered." Imagine a world where people volunteer their missteps because they know it will genuinely help the team avoid the same pitfall. It's not a fantasy; it's a psychologically safe reality.
3. The journey is celebrated as much as the destination. We all want the "win," but the gritty process of experimenting, trying, falling, and getting back up is where the real magic happens. When failure is seen as part of that journey—a necessary detour, not a dead end—people are empowered to take risks.
Leaders: The Failure-Friendly Sherpas
So, how do we cultivate this magnificent culture of productive failure? It starts at the top. Leaders, this means you. You need to model vulnerability, share your own glorious screw-ups (and what you learned!), and actively create space for others to do the same. You're not just hiring smart people; you're hiring curious, brave people who are willing to poke the bear, try the wild idea, and occasionally fall on their faces. Your job is to catch them, dust them off, and point them towards the next mountain. As renowned leadership expert and author, Simon Sinek, wisely notes:
"A leader's job is not to do the work for others, it's to help others figure out how to do it themselves, to get things done, and to succeed beyond what they thought possible."
And succeeding beyond what you thought possible often involves a few spectacular belly flops along the way. So, let's stop fearing failure. Let's embrace it, learn from it, and high-five each other for the sheer audacity of trying. Because the only real failure is not taking the leap at all.
You Failed! (And Why That's Fantastic News)
10/20/2025
Stop Roasting Your Employees at 900°F: Psychological Safety and Burnout
Have ever been at a holiday meal where time got away from you and the turkey was put in the oven at a high setting, so it was “done” with the rest of the meal? Yeah. Me too. We’ve all seen it, right? Compare the two turkeys. The crispy, blackened turkey on the left and the golden, juicy masterpiece on the right. Same bird, different approach. The lesson? It’s not just what you cook, it’s how you cook it.
And honestly, workplaces aren’t all that different. Leaders can crank up the pressure, demand more, and try to “get results faster” (hello, 900°F management style) … or they can create the conditions for team members to thrive over time (slow and steady at 300°F). One approach leaves the company with something nourishing. The other? Burnt to a crisp.
The Burnout Oven: Corporate Edition
Many times, burnout is described as working long hours for little pay. But that is just half of the story. Burnout isn’t just about working long hours. It’s about working in environments where stress is high, fear rules the day, and employees feel like one wrong move will get them torched.
Cue psychological safety. Dr. Amy Edmondson, who coined the term, has said: “When people feel psychologically safe at work, they are less likely to experience burnout.”
Why? Because instead of running on adrenaline and fear, employees can:
• Speak up when they’re overloaded without being labeled “weak.”
• Admit mistakes early (before they become five-alarm fires).
• Ask for help without worrying they’ll be the next turkey thrown into the deep fryer.
• Share crazy ideas that might just be the secret recipe the company needs.
Creating a Golden-Brown Culture
I’m not saying there won’t be times in the fiscal year that the pressure will need to be turned up. Deadlines, big projects … they happen! Sure, you can squeeze a little extra productivity out of people in the short term by turning up the heat. But just like that 900°F turkey, the results aren’t always pretty, and they’re definitely not sustainable. Burnt-out employees quit. Or worse, they stay and quietly disengage while perfecting their “I’m totally listening” Zoom face.
Psychological safety isn’t about lowering expectations. It’s about creating conditions where people can meet those expectations without torching their mental health in the process. Think:
• Leaders who check in, not check up.
• Teams where questions are welcome, not weaponized.
• Workloads that reflect reality, not fantasy football lineups.
• Recognition that effort counts, not just flawless execution.
Because here’s the truth: you don’t get that perfect golden turkey by cranking up the heat. You get it by giving it the time, care, and conditions it needs to cook evenly. Employees are no different.
Great Leaders Don’t
Boss, They Lead
We’ve all has the two kinds of leaders in the workplace:
1. The “Because I said so” boss.
2. The leader who makes you want to follow them into battle armed only with a laptop, a cup of coffee, and maybe some office snacks.
Spoiler: only one of these builds strong, thriving teams.
Justin Wright’s spot-on meme, “What Great Leaders Say to Build Strong Teams,” reminds us that leadership isn’t about title, power suits, or the ability to master “reply all.” It’s about the little things leaders say—and more importantly, the environment those words create.
The Leadership Superpower
At the heart of these phrases (“I believe in you,” “How can I support your growth?”) is psychological safety. As Dr. Amy Edmondson puts it:
“Psychological safety is about creating an environment where people feel comfortable being themselves, sharing ideas, and taking risks without fear.”
Translation? It’s not about being “nice.” It’s about being real. It’s cultivating a space where your team can contribute their best ideas without worrying they’ll be laughed at, ignored, or shut down faster than a computer running Windows 95.
What Great Leaders Actually Say
Taking a deeper look at the meaning behind the words we find:
• “I trust your judgment.” → Magic words that say, “I don’t need to micromanage you into oblivion.”
• “Tell me more about your idea.” → Innovation isn’t born out of silence, it’s born out of curiosity.
• “How are you really doing?” → People are humans, not task machines.
• “Let’s celebrate.” → Because confetti isn’t just for birthdays.
These aren’t fluffy soundbites. They’re intentional leadership moves that show confidence, build trust, and encourage collaboration. However it takes consistency, transparency, and intention for employees to truly believe it.
Bossing vs. Leading
Bosses give orders. Leaders create ownership.
Bosses want obedience. Leaders want engagement.
Bosses think saying “We’re a family here” is motivating (it’s not). Leaders actually make people feel included, valued, and heard.
The Takeaway
Leadership isn’t about knowing it all. It’s far from it. Leadership is about creating conditions where your team can do their best work, ask the tough questions, and feel confident enough to say, “I’ve got an idea.”
Justin Wright’s meme isn’t just a nice graphic, it’s a cheat sheet for leaders who want to do better. And Dr. Amy Edmondson reminds us that psychological safety isn’t optional if you want high-performing teams.
Because great leaders don’t just get results. They build people.
10/27/2025
10/27/2025
The Stage Fright of Success: Why You're Terrified of Being Seen Trying
We’ve all heard it… that little voice in your head. No, not the one that reminds you to buy more coffee, the one that whispers, "Don't press send! What if it's terrible? What if they laugh?" I have been experiencing this phenomenon myself the last several months as I embark on new adventures.
I have spent so much time recently analyzing failure, but the truth is there is a deeper, sneakier fear: the fear of being seen trying. It’s encapsulated perfectly in the spiky, uncomfortable quote: "Most people don't fear failure, they fear being seen trying."
The Hidden Cost of the "Cool Kid" Persona
Think about it. Failure is an outcome. If you fail, you can always rationalize it: "The market wasn't ready," "We were under-resourced," or the classic, "It was a learning experience." (Said while furiously deleting all evidence of the project.) But being seen trying? That's vulnerability. That's showing your work, your passion, your effort, before you know the result. It’s admitting, "This is important to me, and I’m putting my whole self into it."
And if you’re seen giving 110% on a project that then flops, the fear isn't just failure; it's the humiliation of exposure. It's the thought that people will whisper, "Wow, they really tried, and they still couldn't do it." In a culture obsessed with effortless success, you’ve seen them… the overnight CEO or the "natural" talent, showing the messy middle parts of effort feels like professional kryptonite. We'd rather pretend we just woke up like this (successful, that is).
Psychological Safety: The Anti-Judgment Shield
This is where the magic of psychological safety swoops in to save the day (and your sanity).
A truly psychologically safe workplace is the place where you can confidently flail in public and know that the reaction won't be judgment, but rather curiosity and support. It's the environment that understands the fundamental truth that effort precedes excellence.
When psychological safety is thriving:
1. The Process is Valued: It’s not just about the finished product; it’s about the iteration, the experimentation, and the guts it took to even start. When a project hits a wall, the team asks, "What was the bold move we made?" not "Who signed off on this hot mess?"
2. Vulnerability is a Strength: Leaders don't just tolerate people trying new things; they actively celebrate the attempt. They share their own half-baked ideas and their "Version 1.0s" to show everyone that being visible in your effort is a sign of courage, not weakness.
3. The Spotlight is a Lamp, Not a Laser: You don't fear the spotlight because you know it's there to illuminate the path forward, not to burn a hole through your reputation.
If your team is constantly holding back their boldest ideas until they are 100% perfect, they aren't fearing failure; they are fearing the moment you'd see their first, wobbly, not-yet-perfect attempt. And that is a tragically expensive fear.
Be Brave Enough to Be Bad
To smash this barrier, leaders need to create a culture where being "bad" at something, temporarily, as you learn, is an expected, even celebrated, part of the journey. We need to normalize the beautiful, awkward stage of trying. I know, I’m there right now! As one of the world's most influential leadership thinkers, Brené Brown, states, connecting vulnerability with courage:
"Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it's having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome."
So go ahead and join me. Let us show up. Let us start that risky project. Present that weird, half-formed idea. Hit send on the V0.5 draft. Be seen putting in the honest-to-goodness effort. Because the only thing worse than trying and failing is regretting that you never let the world see you try at all. Now, go put some glorious, visible effort into your day! (I'm watching... admiringly, I promise.)
11/10/2025
The Bar is Too Dang High
Okay, let's talk about the constant hustle, the never-ending goal-setting, and that little cartoon you just sent your work bestie. You feel like you have made absolutely no progress in your life, career, you name it. But what if we changed the way we were thinking about all the work we are putting in.
"Maybe you don't realize how far you've come," the image by Growth By Visuals says, "Because you keep raising the bar."
Preach! Seriously, who among us hasn't hit a major milestone only to immediately think, "Great, what's next?" We're driven, we're high-achievers, and frankly, we're exhausted. On an individual level, that meme is spot-on. We are our own toughest critics and most ambitious goal-setters. We're running a never-ending marathon where the finish line is made of rubber.
The Psychological Safety Stunt
Now, let's zoom out to the workplace. While your personal "raise the bar" mentality might be driving your career, it can be a silent, sneaky killer of psychological safety for your team and even for yourself.
Psychological safety is the oxygen mask for a high-performing team. It makes space for people to speak up with ideas, beliefs, or opinions without the fear of punishment or humiliation.
When your own inner bar-raiser is constantly on blast, it creates a subtle, toxic atmosphere where:
1. Mistakes are Catastrophic: If the bar is always up, any step back, hiccup, or glorious failure feels like an epic face-plant. Who's going to admit they messed up the Q3 budget when the standard is perpetual, flawless ascent? Nobody. They'll hide it until it becomes a five-alarm fire.
2. Innovation Hides: New ideas are inherently risky. They might fail. If your workplace culture, even subtly, worships the finished product and ignores the messy, iterative process, people will stick to the safe, known path. The bar for creativity becomes so high, they just skip the jump entirely.
3. Burnout is Your New Bestie: When you never celebrate the distance traveled because you're fixated on the next summit, you, and your team, will eventually just... stop. The juice isn't worth the squeeze if the reward for success is just a higher starting line for the next race.
Great Leaders are the good kind of Goalpost Movers
Here’s where the power of leadership comes in. Yes, keep your personal ambition humming, but if you're leading a team, you have a critical job: to be the institutional memory and the Chief Celebrator. A great leader knows the meme is true, and they actively work to counteract its negative effects. They don't just set the next, higher goal; they pause the music, grab the mic, and point backward, saying, "Hey, remember that impossible thing we did six months ago? We did that. You're all the proof."
They intentionally make the team stop, acknowledge the progress, and recognize the distance already covered. This isn't just a feel-good exercise; it’s a strategic move that fundamentally boosts psychological safety. By consistently highlighting past achievements, the leader is essentially saying:
• "We are capable of hard things." (Building confidence)
• "Your past effort is valued." (Building trust)
• "We learn and grow." (Normalizing the process, not just the result)
This encouragement is what fuels the continued, sustainable climb. You're not lowering standards; you're just providing a safety harness and a decent pair of hiking boots for the journey. As the brilliant organizational behavioral scientist Dr. Amy Edmondson puts it:
"Leadership is about creating the conditions for people to do their best work."
And I'm here to tell you, constantly raising the bar without acknowledging the climb is decidedly not creating the best conditions. So, go on, be a little audacious with your goals, but take a minute, look back, and give yourself and your team the high-five they've earned.
11/17/2025
Your Evidence vs. Their Ego: Why Facts Just Bounced Off the Boss
Let's face it: we've all been there. You're sitting in a meeting, armed with spreadsheets, charts, and a truly dazzling PowerPoint presentation. You've got the facts. You have the data. You are ready to drop the truth bomb and watch minds be changed! ...And then your brilliant, evidence-based argument hits the leader's ego like a marshmallow hitting a brick wall. All the evidence in the world will not change their mind.
The brilliant observances at @catching-bees nailed this infuriating dynamic with this quote:
"When dealing with leaders operating in an ego-based reality instead of a fact based one, correcting them with evidence won't change their mind; it will only threaten their identity."
The Ego-Based Reality TV Show
"Ego-based reality." Harsh, but true. It’s not just a clever phrase; it's a terrifying place to work.
In a fact-based reality, your proposal failed because of poor market timing. In an ego-based reality, your proposal failed because someone else is incompetent, the data is wrong, or the universe has a personal vendetta against the leader's genius. When a leader lives in a reality where their identity is fused with their always-being-right, every piece of contradictory evidence isn't a helpful data point, it's an existential threat. You're not just correcting a budget line; you're attacking their self-worth. It's a drama, and you're the pesky analyst who keeps trying to turn off the cameras.
The Psychological Safety Fallout
So, what does this high-stakes ego trip do to psychological safety? It destroys it.
The whole point of psychological safety is the belief that you can speak up without fear of punishment. But when the leader's response to facts is to feel personally wounded or attack the messenger, people learn three things very quickly:
1. Silence is Survival: It’s easier to just nod, smile, and let the train careen off the rails than to hand the driver the brake-failure report.
2. Spin is Strategy: Evidence becomes a liability. The smart play is not to bring the truth, but to craft a narrative that supports the leader's pre-existing worldview. Innovation dies a quiet death, suffocated by cheerful compliance.
3. Vulnerability is Vetoed: If the leader can't handle objective evidence, they certainly can't handle a team member admitting a mistake. The cycle of defensiveness trickles down, making every error a secret to be guarded.
This isn't leading; it's self-preservation at the expense of the team's ability to be honest, which is exactly why things often go wrong.
Leaders: Please Put Down the Mirror
To escape the ego-trap, leaders need to create a culture where they, themselves, are willing to be wrong. They need to view evidence that contradicts their idea not as a personal failure, but as a gift that saves the company time, money, and embarrassment. It takes humility, a trait that, unfortunately, many ego-driven people trade for a corner office. As leadership expert Simon Sinek perfectly articulates the core problem with this type of poor leadership:
"Bad leaders are the ones who always think that they have all the answers. The good leaders are the ones who are smart enough to surround themselves with people who know more than they do."
The best leaders don't need to be the smartest person in the room; they need to be the one brave enough to say, "My data was wrong. Thank you for showing me." That doesn't threaten their identity; it elevates it.
So, the next time you feel that facts are bouncing off the boss, maybe skip the data deep dive. Instead, ask a question that invites them to discover the conclusion with you. Let them save face. Then, maybe, just maybe, you can start building a reality based on sanity, not selfies.
11/24/2025
Why "What If I Fail?" Is Less Scary Than "What If I Don't?"
Have you ever felt stuck and wanted to try something new? It’s that little spark of curiosity, a completely wild marketing campaign, a new piece of software, or even just suggesting that the team meeting could be an email. It’s exhilarating! ...Until the anxiety kicks in. Suddenly, you’re not thinking about the potential success; you’re picturing a massive, public flop, complete with an interpretive dance by your finance department about the wasted budget.
The fear of trying is a fear of exposing your lack of expertise or of simply making a glorious, visible mess. But guess what? The mess is the point!
The Steve Bartlett Infographic That Called Us Out
The entrepreneur and podcaster, Steven Bartlett, perfectly encapsulated this dilemma in an infographic that basically slapped us all into reality. It outlines the outcomes of trying versus not trying and, honestly, it's brutal in its simplicity. The key takeaway? When you try, the worst-case scenario is that you fail but you still learn. And who doesn’t love learning? When you don't try, the best-case scenario is that you're comfortable, until the world moves on without you, and you are left asking, “what about me?” The risk is not in failing; the true professional risk is in remaining comfortably, predictably stagnant, and having the world move on without you.
Psychological Safety: Your License to Flail
This is where the super-power of psychological safety comes in. Psychological safety is the team belief that you won't be punished or humiliated for speaking up, asking a stupid question, or, crucially, trying something and watching it spectacularly crash and burn. When a leader fosters this environment, they essentially give the team a license to flail. They say: "Go try that weird, new thing. If it fails, we will gather 'round like scientists, examine the wreckage, learn the lessons, and then try something else."
In this safe space, the fear shifts from being judged to not contributing. The high-stakes drama of trying is lowered because the team's identity is tied to experimentation and growth, not flawless execution.
If your workplace lacks this safety, people will stick to the well-trodden, boring path, because staying silent or sticking to the old playbook is the safest way to protect their reputation from the leader's potential ego-meltdown. They’d rather stick with the comfortable misery of the status quo than risk the spectacular pain of innovation.
The minute you create a culture where humiliation is off the table, people become willing to take the risks necessary for growth. So, go ahead. Try that new thing. Be messy. Be bold. And for the love of all that is innovative, if you crash, make sure you collect all the sweet, juicy lessons from the debris. Now get out there and break something (and then fix it better)!
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12/1/2025
Are You Actually Listening or Just Waiting to Talk?
Let's be brutally honest: most of us are terrible listeners. We walk into a meeting with our talking points locked and loaded, essentially treating the other person's monologue as background noise while we rehearse our own verbal masterpiece. Believe me… I can be the queen of the internal monologue with my points locked and loaded… ask my husband.
In the corporate world, this common affliction is more than just rude, it's an environmental hazard. Because if people don't genuinely believe they are being heard, they will stop speaking. And when they stop speaking, all those brilliant ideas, crucial warnings, and necessary disagreements disappear. The result? The complete demolition of psychological safety.
The "Listening" Lie
We all nod. We all maintain eye contact (mostly). We all say, "That's a good point." But true listening, the kind that makes someone feel safe enough to share a risky idea or point out a flaw in the master plan, is rare. When a leader or a teammate is clearly just waiting for their turn to talk, they are sending a silent, chilling message: "Your contribution is less valuable than my reaction."
This is an immediate, high-speed collision with safety. Why would an employee risk bringing up an uncomfortable truth (e.g., "Boss, this new strategy is fundamentally flawed") if they know the leader's ego will only allow a 3.5-second pause before they jump in with a defensive counter-argument? They won't. They'll smile, nod, and let the flawed strategy proceed to inevitable disaster.
The Art of Shutting Up and Learning
True leadership requires the courage to shut up. It requires treating every conversation, especially the uncomfortable ones, not as a debate to be won, but as an opportunity to gain critical intelligence. Leadership expert Justin Wright perfectly captures the power of this practice:
"If you stop focusing on making people hear you and start focusing on hearing people, it will change your leadership trajectory."
That's the tea! When you genuinely focus on hearing, your leadership trajectory goes up because you gain access to the collective brainpower, concerns, and market intelligence of your team. You stop flying blind. And this circles right back to the bedrock of team performance, as defined by Dr. Amy Edmondson:
"Psychological safety is about candor. It’s about being able to say what you think needs to be said without fear."
Candor doesn't magically appear; it's invited by a listener. When leaders create space, hold their responses, ask clarifying questions, and show their team that their input has the power to change the outcome, they build that essential, life-saving candor.
Your Homework: Listen Like Your Job Depends on It (Because it does!)
So, let's make a deal. In your next meeting, try to be a better listener, and so will I. Don't just wait for the person to breathe so you can interject. Try to understand, truly understand, the point they are making. Because the most dangerous sound in any organization isn't a loud argument; it's the silence that comes after someone decides it's just not worth the effort to speak up anymore. And that silence means the death of innovation, the hiding of failure, and the ultimate sinking of your best ideas.
Go forth, be quiet, and listen like you mean it!
12/8/2025
Navigating the Iceberg of Toxic Culture
Alright, let's talk about a chilling reality check… the iceberg of toxic culture.
The "easy to See" stuff like high turnover and quiet quitting are just the tips. But lurking beneath the surface? A whole frozen mountain range of soul-crushing dynamics: micromanagement, overwork, incompetent bosses, and my personal favorite, "blame culture." This isn't just a diagram; it's practically a corporate movie script. And guess what the life raft is when you're adrift in these icy waters? You guessed it: psychological safety.
When the Iceberg Melts Your Morale
Let's dissect this frozen beast. The "easy to see" stuff on top? That's what HR sees, that's what leadership should see, but often dismisses as "a few bad apples" or "the market is just crazy right now."
But the real danger is what's lurking beneath the waterline.
• Micromanagement: This isn't just annoying; it's a giant initiative crusher. Why try something new if every move is scrutinized and second-guessed?
• Blame Culture: This is the equivalent of yelling "Man overboard!" and then accusing the person who fell in of having poor swimming technique. No one feels safe taking risks, admitting mistakes, or even just asking for help, because the immediate response is a public shaming.
• Lack of Trust & Favoritism: These are the hidden currents that pull talent away, leaving everyone else scrambling to stay afloat, wondering if their effort even matters.
• Burnout Culture: This isn't just a byproduct; it's the direct result of all those hidden pressures. It's the slow, agonizing freeze that takes hold when employees are overworked, undervalued, and completely unsupported.
Every single item beneath the surface of that iceberg is a direct assault on psychological safety. They are all signals that it is NOT safe to speak up, NOT safe to be vulnerable, and NOT safe to simply be human at work.
Psychological Safety: Your Ship's Sonar
So, how do we avoid hitting this magnificent metaphor for corporate disaster? With a robust sonar system called psychological safety.
A psychologically safe workplace actively works to melt away that iceberg. It means:
1. Transparency, Not Gossip: When communication is clear and honest, gossip (a symptom of mistrust) loses its power.
2. Learning, Not Blaming: Mistakes are treated as opportunities for collective growth, not individual punishment. This directly counters blame culture.
3. Empowerment, Not Micromanagement: Leaders trust their teams to do their jobs, providing support and autonomy, rather than hovering like a very annoying drone.
4. Value, Not Just Workload: Employees feel genuinely appreciated for their contributions, not just seen as cogs in a machine. This directly combats feeling undervalued and the burnout culture.
It's about creating an environment where employees feel secure enough to point out the hidden dangers before the ship goes down.
As Simon Sinek, often reminds us: "A team is not a group of people who work together. A team is a group of people who trust each other."
And trust is the opposite of every single problem on that iceberg.
So, leaders, put down your binoculars that only scan the "easy to see" surface. Dive a little deeper. Listen to your crew. Because a psychologically safe workplace isn't just a nice-to-have; it's the difference between a thriving voyage and a one-way trip to the bottom of the ocean. Let's make sure our teams are sailing, not sinking.
12/15/2025
Your Career is a Petri Dish: Let's Get Messy!
Alright, settle in, because the statement from Scott D Clary is a mic-drop moment for anyone who's ever felt like their career path was supposed to be a perfectly straight, pre-paved highway. Can we get this tattooed on every corporate wall? Seriously, this quote isn't just career advice; it's a battle cry for anyone tired of the soul-crushing pressure to be "right" all the time.
The Lab Coat vs. The Suit of Armor
Here's the deal: for too long, we've been told our careers are a meticulous blueprint. I mean, I’ve heard that. Haven’t you? In college, you are supposed to pick a path, follow it, climb the corporate ladder, and retire early on a beach somewhere. The idea of "experimenting" sounds like career death, right?
But Scott D Clary nails it. Our careers are a series of experiments. Sometimes you mix the chemicals and get a brilliant new compound (promotion! successful project!). Sometimes you get a little smoke, maybe a weird smell, and definitely not what you intended (that project that went nowhere fast, or that job that was NOT what you thought). The problem? Most workplaces are set up for the suit of armor, not the lab coat. We're expected to be infallible, to have all the answers, and to never, ever show the messy, uncertain process of experimentation. This is where psychological safety doesn't just come into play; it becomes the very air in your career lab.
Why Your Career Lab Needs Psychological Safety
If you're treating your career like a lab, you need a safe space to conduct those experiments. Without psychological safety, your "Test. Iterate. Learn. Repeat." cycle looks more like:
1. Test (secretly): Because if anyone sees your first attempt and it's not perfect, you're toast.
2. Iterate (anxiously): Every tweak is a gamble. Will this finally be the "right" answer?
3. Learn (privately): You analyze your failures alone, because admitting them publicly is career death.
4. Repeat (less and less): Eventually, you stop experimenting altogether and stick to what's safe, predictable, and boring.
This isn't a lab; it's a solitary confinement cell for innovation. Psychological safety is the permission slip to:
• Propose a "crazy" idea: Your colleagues won't scoff; they'll ask, "What are we hoping to learn?"
• Admit an experiment failed: The response isn't "Whose fault is this?" but "What insights did we gain?"
• Pivot aggressively: Changing direction based on new data is seen as smart, not indecisive.
• Be a beginner (again and again): Every new experiment means new skills, new knowledge, and temporary incompetence—and that's okay.
Unleash Your Inner Mad Scientist!
So, ditch the pressure to have a perfect, linear career path. Embrace the glorious, chaotic reality that it's a series of experiments. Put on your imaginary lab coat, grab your metaphorical beakers, and start mixing things up. Don't let the fear of a failed experiment keep you from discovering the next big breakthrough, for yourself, your team, and your organization. The world needs more curious scientists and fewer rigid robots. Now go forth and experiment!